Have you ever noticed that when you meet someone, within a few moments you have already made a decision if you like them or not? Why is that?
The truth of the matter is that we LIKE people that are LIKE us. When you meet someone, you automatically connect with them if you have something common. Maybe you’re from the same hometown. Maybe you have the same hobby. Maybe you both drive a Prius, who knows.
Think about your friends. Think about people you admire and find out what exactly attracts you to them. You’ll be surprised that the things you admire the most might be qualities you already possess or are developing.
Many people think that opposites attract and I’ll have to respectfully disagree with that. You’re going to say: “Well, Sally and Peter are very different, Peter is firey and Sally’s very calm. That’s why they get along”
-Hmmmm? Yes and no
What you are probably talking about are their demeanor and you’re absolutely right. Having different temperaments helps them find the perfect balance. Take a closer look at them and you’ll also realize that they have so many things in common that attracted them to each other in the first place.
Think about your closest friend. I’m not saying they are an identical copy of you, but lets say maybe you both love watching and talking about sports. Maybe you both enjoy the same beer and have similar fashion.
It is normal for us to like someone because we see a resemblance of ourselves and share the same qualities/values.
The opposite is also true. When you get annoyed or hate something another person does, it could be a reflection of your own negative tendencies. It’s not fair at times how we judge people by the way we are and we constantly surround ourselves with those who are like us. But that’s just the reality.
We all have a lot of similarities and also things that make us different and unique. Just know that there is always a perfect match out there for you. Like my mom always said “Every pig finds it’s dirt”. Sounds a bit crude I know, but it’s true!
So knowing that, your only job is to be the best version of yourself. If you do that, you’ll attract amazing people in your life.
We like people who are like us,
And I like you, because you’re like me!
Veronica Parks #VPLove